Weddings for Real

Hosted ByMegan Gillikin

A Southern Soiree, voted Best Local Wedding Planner by IndyWeek, chose Earfluence to build a voice amplification platform to create national consulting, coaching, and speaking opportunities.

27: Moms and Daughters Planning a Wedding Together in Peace, with Megan’s Mom

I brought my mom onto my podcast, and you’ll hear all about our arguments from my wedding, which included cake, videography, photography, and invitations. And believe it or not, we both admit that the other one was right!

Today’s show is all about how moms and daughters can plan a wedding together in peace. As you probably know, the wedding tradition still is that the bride’s parents pay for the wedding, and with so much money invested, there’s going to be some tension – and even some arguing – between brides and moms.

Usually when I’m planning a wedding, either the mom or the daughter are my primary contact. And they don’t always get along – sometimes they openly argue right in front of me and it can be pretty tense.  I get it, wedding planning can be stressful, and I had a few arguments with my mom too when I was getting married.

But whose wedding is it really? Let’s say the parents are paying for the entire wedding – does the mom get to make all of the decisions? What if those decisions aren’t what the daughter wants at all?

So I talked to my mom about all of this, plus we talked about our own weddings, what happens to money that’s saved up if a daughter elopes, if we’ll ever get out of the tradition of a brides’ parents paying for a wedding, and finally I get to put my mom through the lightning round.

Jackie Brewer and Megan Gillikin

Jackie and Megan (image by f8 Photography)

(image by f8 Photography)

(image by f8 Photography)

Jackie and William Brewer

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The host of the show is Megan Gillikin, owner and lead consultant at A Southern Soiree Wedding and Event Planning.  She’s also available for wedding and hospitality business consulting and can be reached at

Weddings for Real is edited and produced by Jason Gillikin for Earfluence.

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